Ringing in a new year is always an exciting time. I try to reflect back on who I am and what I can better and improve. I don't know about you, but it is pretty easy to find my own faults! And I think that is one of the things I will pray about and work on in 2017. I want to love myself and who God created me to be. I don't want to spend my days comparing myself to others, whether that is in looks, accomplishments, kids....I want to find contentment in who I am and the life God has given me. Starting this blog was not easy for me. There are so many fabulous fashion bloggers out there, very successful, beautiful, and talented bloggers! I struggled for months with self doubt and comparing myself. As we neared the end of 2016, I knew it was something I needed to work on.
I've come up with a practical list of steps to take to better love myself, and I hope if it is something you need to work on, that it will be helpful to you as well! Now, ultimately, I believe I can not come to a place of contentment without first accepting the love Christ has for me. But I do also recognize that there are real steps that can be taken.
1. Stop Playing the Comparison Game
In a world full of social media displaying everyone's "perfect" lives, this one can be really hard! It is easy to feel discouraged about your own life when all you're seeing on Facebook and Instagram, or whatever your outlet is, are the family vacation photos, the celebrations of marriage and new life, the accomplishments of your friends and family members, the beautiful and perfectly clean homes of strangers with seemingly perfect lives and all they could want in the palms of their hands. For one thing, you must remember that no one is displaying the reality of every day life. No one is showing photos of the child induced messes, cereal spilled all over the floor, laundry and little shoes thrown everywhere, the toys littering the house that have already been picked up several dozen times. No one is displaying their broken hearts over lost relationships or loved ones. Now, I know there are several of my own friends who try to keep it pretty real, but for the most part, let's be honest, social media is the place for us to display the good. And on that note, put down the phone! Spend more time in your own reality, with your friends and family, rather than getting sucked into the social realm. I know I've been guilty of it and it is one of the quickest ways of dragging yourself down.
2, Stop Self Criticism
Like above, this one is tough! it is much easier to find the faults in ourselves rather than the things that are good and lovely. And there is plenty of that, I can assure you! Try and write down something you love about yourself every morning. Whether it is a physical aspect or characteristic, try and start your morning thinking on things that are true and good. Do this long enough and it will soon become habit! You'll start to see yourself in a new light. No one is perfect, we all have faults. But we all have good, as well!
3. Take Care of Yourself
This one may seem obvious, but I know for myself, being a mom, I tend to put myself on the back burner. I had three children in two and a half years and it was much easier to just skip a meal, skip a shower, stay in my p.j.'s etc, rather than let one of them lack the attention they needed. This of course was not healthy for me and the neglect of myself brought me down pretty quickly. We need to make sure we are taking care of ourselves, as well. Take vitamins, eat healthy meals, wear sunscreen and care for your skin, get dressed every day, find an exercise you love! You'll feel much better about yourself when you're taking care of yourself.
4. Learn To Say No
This one goes along with taking care of yourself. When you put too much stress on yourself, it will affect you mentally and physically. It can be hard to say no to certain things, maybe you truly enjoy helping other people out or maybe you just feel like you have to say yes to everything, whatever the case may be, you have to learn to say no! Don't put too much stress on yourself, it affects everyone around you, especially those closest to you. Learn to balance what you do and how much you do, for your sake and your family's! Make a list of things from highest priority to lowest, this will help be your guide the next time someone asks you to do something.
5. Pursue What You Love
When you spend your time doing the things you love and are good at, you will find yourself uplifted, encouraged, and joyful. It won't always be easy, but knowing that you are pursuing your dreams or what you feel called to, will help you keep everything in perspective.
6. Look For The Good In Others
Learning to find the good in others keeps your heart in the right place. You become someone genuinely lovable because you love others. When we are solely self focused, we can quickly sink into depression, loneliness, and anger. But when we focus on others, see the good in them, it allows our hearts to soften and fill with grace and kindness. Don't stop at just seeing the good either, help them to see it as well! Rather than being jealous and tearing each other down, trying to be the best of everything and everyone, let's truly love each other. Let's build each other up and encourage one another. I promise you will be much more content with yourself when you are focused on others!
Make sure to let me know your New Year's resolutions in the comments!I hope my tips inspired you! Now on to the look! When it comes to New Years Eve, I think of glitter, beautiful details, and edgy pieces. These glitter stiletto boots, leather ruffled clutch, and floral cut out sweater were the perfect pieces to create my look. I added some distressed black denim to keep the look on the edgy side.
What do you think? How do you like to dress for New Years Eve? I linked more sparkly, girly, edgy, and leather pieces below!
6 ways to better love yourself
1. Stop the comparison game
2. Stop self criticism
3. Take care of yourself
4. Learn to say no
5. Pursue what you love
6. Look for the good in others
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